Emotion · Shame family
Guilt
noun
The uncomfortable sense that you did something that went against your values or hurt someone.
How it shows up in the body
A heavy stomach, replaying the moment, difficulty looking at the person, restlessness.
What it is telling you
Your conscience is working. Guilt points toward repair — it is one of the most useful feelings you have.
The urge — and the choice
To avoid the person or drown it with excuses. The choice is to own it and make it right.
One thing to try
Name what you did, the impact it had, and one concrete repair you can offer.
Practice it: Repair conversation.
Words you can use
I was wrong when I ___. I can see it hurt you. Here’s what I want to do to make it right.
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